Where am I and what am I doing?

Good question. Well firstly I am in Australia where I have been for a few months and I’m kind of lost in the emotional ether. There is far too much going on. I have fallen for someone who is unfortunately attached but, aside from the passion (because we do have to leave that aside) he understands me like nobody has. He reads me. This is very flattering to a woman. So if you mix that with my dear friend Bob who is dying of a brain tumour and then remember I am only here because a job in Qatar disappeared after it was there, then you have it.

This is why I have been in a gorgeous hideaway by the coast for a week, just having peace and quiet and god I do love being alone. Is it me or does anyone else feel much safer being alone? Emotionally I mean.

Anyway, there is also a very Good and Worthwhile reason why I have not posted. I am writing a book. A book on dating and relationships that women will read, men will enjoy reading and young feministas will hate me for. Because as well as sex it’s about self-respect. Because frankly, if a feminist gives her power of consent to someone else when she is drunk, is she a feminist? And then there’s all the usual stuff you expect from me and some you might not. It’s funny, it’s probably a bit filthy in parts and unlike most other books for women in this realm, it doesn’t let the reader think she deserves anything. And it might help her understand men which may be helpful.

I will blog but I am halfway through second draft and my dear ill friend Bob who is a screenwriter is pushing me. So I am on a clock. Because we don’t how long he’s got and he’s told me, “You fucking have to do this.” And he’s right.

Back soon.

8 comments for “Where am I and what am I doing?

  1. David
    March 9, 2016 at 18:42

    Brilliant news about the novel

    Surely the guardian will serialise it after stella sails away on her happy ending….

    I’ll buy it anyway

  2. Charlene
    March 9, 2016 at 18:51

    Yay! I’m so happy to hear you are writing a book and have made so much progress…second draft…how wonderful 🙂

    Can’t wait to read it.

    Its wonderful how you are there for Bob and Bob is there for you.

    Interesting that you have met someone you feel so strongly for and unfortunate that he is attached.

    Best wishes!

  3. Mr Majeka
    March 10, 2016 at 00:02

    Thanks for the update. I, for one, shall leave you alone and wait for the book. Maybe you can get your old mucker Stella to blog here in your absence. 😉

  4. jay
    March 10, 2016 at 01:01

    Hi woe – that’s great news about the book! was hoping your absence was maybe due to that – cannot wait to read it.

    Agree with you about the ‘alone’ thing – it is safer, emotionally – but as you say, there are some men who fully get this and can leave you the space you need – however, loads of men I’ve met demand the whole 24/7 kind of thing – no way I can do this and ultimately, just means we’re not suited.

    Sad to hear of your friend Bill – but encouraged to hear he is pushing you a bit with the book. The resident Guardian online dating blogger is ceasing her column in 3 weeks. There is a god!! After something like 3 weeks of dating someone, she is, and I quote -‘gratefully scuttling back to the safety of two’. Self-respect? none here I’m afraid….. what an utterly dispiriting basis on which to enter a new relationship.

    All the best woe – keep at it! We need you.


  5. woe
    March 10, 2016 at 20:01

    I think the Guardian may have euthanised their resident blogger’s dating column.

    By the way David, it’s not a novel, it’s a book about dating and relationships like no other.

    I think I am far too active in real life for The Guardian.

  6. 50datesofgraphicdetail@woe
    March 10, 2016 at 21:49

    How exciting; look forward to the chapter on selfies and being called Kim

  7. Gail Wulfsohn
    March 16, 2016 at 16:16

    So excited to hear that you are writing a book on dating and relationships. Need as many tips as I can get as a 60 year old woman. I can’t believe that even Stella has found a fella. What a boring process it has been. Please keep us informed as to publication date.

  8. March 18, 2016 at 12:52

    And, of course, you’re writing for us too! http://advantagesofage.com/i-woke-up-at-40. If you love WOE’s writing, please do subscribe. 🙂

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